🎯 Make the damn decision

Here’s how I finally did...

I’ve been sitting with a big decision for the past couple of months. One of those hefty ones.

A two-year commitment that would take up about half my time.

And between us? I’ve been going back and forth for weeks.

I ran all the numbers. I did the scenario planning. I kept thinking if I could just analyse it from the right angle, I’d feel confident enough to hit “go.”

But I just couldn’t quite push the final button.

Until I realised I was falling into the exact same trap I guide so many of my clients out of.

Overthinking a decision because I’m only using my head.

So I sat myself down and did one of my favourite intuitive decision making exercises that I use with clients all the time in moments like this.

A head-heart-gut alignment meditation to tune in to the other wisdom centres in my body that I hadn’t been listening to.

And when I checked in with my gut, I knew immediately where I was stuck:

I was only 80% sure.

Eighty percent sure that saying yes was a good idea.

“You’re not going to find the other 20…” my gut whispered to me softly.

Surprisingly relieved, I realised that what was actually stopping me wasn’t the decision itself, but my brain desperately trying to get to 100% certainty before signing off.

The part of the decision I was still wrestling with, was all the unknowns that were impossible to predict because they were so far out of my control.

I had no way of knowing, and no choice but to charge it to the game of uncertainty.

The 20% will always be there.

It’s always going to be 80% strategy, 20% leap of faith (as the Love is Blind UK couples have been reminding me this week 😅).

There’s always going to be a part of the decision that belongs to the future - the variables no spreadsheet or master plan can predict.

And accepting that, made it so much easier to decide.

When the meditation shifted to check in with what my heart had to say, I asked:

Do I trust that I have the capacity to handle whatever shows up in that uncertain 20%? To pivot, evolve, let go, or double down if need be?

It’s answer was yes.

So I opened my eyes, walked over to my laptop, and finally pressed “I Accept”.

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I wanted to share this in case you’re in the middle of overthinking a decision right now, and let’s be honest - who isn’t?

You don’t need 100% certainty to move forward.

You need just enough clarity to believe you can navigate what has to be left in the unknown.

And if you’ve been having trouble hearing yourself think also, I just shared the head-heart-gut meditation on YouTube:

If you’re feeling pulled in two different directions, this one is for you:

With you in the messy middle,

Kiran x